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John & Lia Wedding Ceremony
(A Crystals Ritual Ceremony)


Text in italics are words spoken by the Bride & Groom or Ceremony participants other than the Celebrant. Text in { } are words spoken by the Celebrant to the guests, and generally explain what is happening or about to happen in the Ceremony. Text in [ ] are actions by the Bride & Groom, Celebrant, or other Ceremony participants. All other text are words spoken by the Celebrant directly addressing the Bride & Groom, and/or the guests.


Opening Words

Welcome everyone to the marriage of Lia Full Name and John Full Name. John and Lia, it is this day you take a giant step of courage, of commitment, to communicate your love, to understand and grow. When a commitment this strong is made by two people, the force of that commitment, of that love, of that courage, reaches out and touches all of us around you, so that our lives are changed and we share a part of your love. Like a stone dropped in a still pond, the ripples of the love from this celebration extends and changes the world we live in.
True marriage is more than joining the bonds of marriage for two persons. It is the uniting of two souls already attuned to each other. When such a true bond already exists between man and woman, it is fitting that an outer acknowledgement be made. This acknowledgement is the prime objective of this gathering and this ceremony. We are hear to bear witness to the entry into the closer relationship of husband and wife of these beloved friends who are already one in spirit.


At this time, we would like to honor the memory of Lia's Father Ed who is here today in spirit and in our hearts.

Celebrant's Address

John & Lia asked me to give an address today as part of their wedding ceremony. I don't have the chance to give many addresses during the course of the wedding season, so I have to put some thought into them when I give them. And, as I thought about it, I figured I would draw from my own experiences as the basis for the address.
As some of you may know, though most of you don't, when I'm not performing marriages, I am a professional Career Counselor - so I like to give advice. And further, I'm a Career Counselor whose been married for 21 years, so you know I can't resist the urge to give John & Lia some advice specifically about marriage. So that's what I'm going to do in my address today.
Lia & John, today is the beginning of an exciting new life together for the two of you. It marks the commencement of new relationships to your families, your friends, and certainly to each other. In a sense, this marriage begins... to complete you. Total completeness, however, is a process that takes patience, perseverance, and the pursuit of particular principles - principles that must be implemented so you can achieve the oneness that is intended for your marriage. So, here are five little "pearls of wisdom" I want to share with you as you begin this new partnership on your journey to total completeness.
First, LISTEN. Listen to each other. Try to hear what each other is really saying. What you say and how you say it is the foundation upon which to build your marriage. Say things that will encourage and support your partner. Take the words you hear from each other into you heart and let them become building blocks for a solid marriage... stepping stones to happiness. Communication is very important in marriage. Take the time to talk with each other. But more importantly, take the time... to listen, for in listening, you communicate that you value your partner's thoughts and feelings.
Second, LEARN. Learn from each other. Both of you are different in many ways. You each bring certain abilities and specific gifts into this relationship. But do not become threatened by your partner's strengths or talents. Join forces. Accept their strengths and combine them with yours because you both have so much to give to this marriage. Every day will be an adventure as you learn and understand something new about one another. If you learn from each other, not only will you be better individuals, but also a better couple. Your marriage will grow stronger because of your desire to understand your partner.
Listen, Learn, and third LABOR - or work. Be willing to work on your relationship. Someone once said, "Anything worth having in this life is worth working for." Make every effort to make this the very best marriage on earth. You don't find precious gems just lying on top of the ground. You have to dig and work hard to get them. But once you find them, they are worth every bit of effort you made. So too, if you work on your relationship, it will be like finding those precious gems, and you'll "strike it rich" because of all your labor.
Listen, Learn, Labor, and fourth, LAUGH. Learn to laugh. Laugh at yourself, and laugh at each other. Laughter is good medicine! Getting married is a serious step, and it should be taken seriously. But I am also serious when I say that having fun and being able to laugh at our mistakes and shortcomings goes a long way in solidifying the mortar of this institution we call marriage. Studies show that laughter has a profound and positive effect on the body. Indeed... it seems laughter IS the best medicine for a long and happy life. I guess it can be said that he who laughs... lasts. So the best way to make your marriage work is to make it play.
Listen, Learn, Labor, Laugh, and finally, LOVE. What is love? And who am I to talk to you about love? We can all see it in your eyes! Countless songs have been sung about it. Poems too many to number have been penned describing it. Books as numerous as the stars in the sky have been authored by both men and women trying to help us understand it. But love is not just something you hear about, it's not just something you read, it's not just something you feel... It's something you do. And... Love is powerful. It can outlast anything. Love is, in fact, the one thing that still stands... when all else has failed.
And so... LISTEN, LEARN, LABOR, LAUGH, and LOVE. Practice these five principles and your marriage will blossom and grow into a life-long partnership that will endure the challenges of life... and withstand the tests of time.

Charge To The Couple

{And now we will proceed with what we call the Charge to the Couple, where I remind Lia and John of the importance of the commitment they are making to each other today.}

Lia and John, remember to treat yourself and each other with respect, and remind yourself often of what brought you together today. Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness, and kindness that your marriage deserves. When frustration and difficulty assail your marriage - as they do to every relationship at one time or another - focus on what still seems right between you, not only the part that seems wrong. This way, when clouds of trouble hide the sun in your lives and you lose sight of it for a moment, you can remember that the sun is still there. And if each of you will take responsibility for the quality of your life together, it will be marked by abundance and delight.
As the two of you come into this marriage uniting you as husband and wife, and as you this day affirm your faith and love for one another, I would ask that you always remember to cherish each other as special and unique individuals, that you respect the thoughts, ideas, and suggestions of one another. Be able to forgive, do not hold grudges, and live each day that you may share it together, as from this day forward you shall be each other's home, comfort, and refuge, your marriage strengthened by your love and respect for each other.
Just as two threads woven in opposite directions will form a most beautiful tapestry, so too can your two lives merged together make a beautiful marriage. To make your relationship work will take love. This is the core of your marriage and why you are here today. It will take trust, to know in your hearts that you truly want the best for each other. It will take dedication to stay open to one another and to learn and grow together. It will take faith to go forward together without knowing exactly what the future brings. And it will take commitment, to hold true to the journey you both pledge today to share together.


{And now, Susan Kennedy will perform a reading}

Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. In the Art of Marriage: The little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day. It is never going to sleep angry. It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through all the years. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family. It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have wings of an angel. It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding, and a sense of humor. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding room for the things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual, and the obligation is reciprocal. It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.

Statements Of Appreciation

[Lia Hands Bouquet to M of Honor]

[Lia and John Face Each Other and Join Hands]

{And now we come to an activity called the Statements of Appreciation. Here, John will proclaim what he loves about Lia, and why he has chosen her to marry, and Lia will do the same for John.}


Lia, you are everything I could ask for in a wife. You are thoughtful, loving, honest, and above all, you are my friend. I accept you now for who you are and for who you will become. With you, I look forward to the future, to sharing our sorrows and celebrating our triumphs, to learning more about each other, and to growing old together. I want nothing more than to share my life with you, in your loving arms.


John, you have become my closest friend. I look forward to waking up by your side each morning, and to returning to the warmth of your arms at the end of each day. I love your humor, your cheerfulness, your intelligence, your creativity, your silliness, and your peaceful nature. I feel honored to take you as my husband, and I know that our children will be blessed with a wonderful father. Together we have more strength and creativity than we ever had on our own.

Expression of Intent

{At this time, Lia and John will make public their intention to marry...}

Lia, do you take this man to be your wedded husband, to share your life with him, and do you pledge that you will love, honor, and care for him in tenderness and affection through all the varying experiences of your lives?

Lia: I do.

John, do you take this woman to be your wedded wife, to share your life with her, and do you pledge that you will love, honor, and care for her in tenderness and affection through all the varying experiences of your lives?

John: I do.


John, and Lia, of the billions of people who inhabit our planet, you have found and chosen each other! It is appropriate that your unique relationship brings you to the milestone we celebrate today. You have been through many changes together during the past eight years, and you remain remarkably compatible and comfortable with each other, sharing good cheer, significant values, and an enduring desire to establish your own family. Your relationship abounds with good will. Although you differ from one another, you have found much of value in common: your humor, your ability to communicate, your shared wish to live each moment fully. It is now time to make the promises, your vows, that will commit you to each other from this day forth.

[Celebrant Gives Vow Card To John]


Lia, I promise always to love, honor, and protect you; to promote your dreams and aspirations; to share in your triumphs and failures; to be true to myselfand true to you; to cherish your laughter and your beautiful smile; to build a loving family; and to nurture our love forever. I say these things with all my heart.

[Celebrant Gives Vow Card To Lia]


John, in marrying you, I commit to loving you unconditionally, through the ordinary, the extraordinary, and the trying moments of our lives; communicate with you openly and honestly; to encourage our growth - not only as a couple, but as individuals; to create a strong and loving family together; and to be your best friend, your lover, and your wife.

Blessing of the Rings

[Celebrant Takes Rings From Pillow of Ring Bearer, Connor]

{And now, before John and Lia exchange their wedding rings I'd like to say some words about the importance and symbolism of these rings}

Rings are an ancient symbol, blessed and simple. Circles - for love that is given comes back around. Round like the sun, like a perfect pearl, like arms that embrace. Therefore, may these symbols remind you, John and Lia, that your love, like the sun, illuminates; that your love, like the pearl, grows in luster; and that your love, like arms that embrace, is a grace upon this world. May you wear them in peace and deepening love.

Exchange Of The Rings

{And now, John and Lia will exchange their wedding rings}

[Celebrant Gives Ring Vow Card To John]

[Celebrant Hands Lia's Ring to John]

John, please place the ring on the tip of Lia's finger, and recite your ring vows...


I give you this ring as a sign of my love and faithfulness.

[Celebrant Gives Ring Vow Card To Lia]

[Celebrant Hands John's Ring to Lia]

Lia, please place the ring on the tip of John's finger, and recite your ring vows...


I give you this ring as a sign of my love and faithfulness.

Crystals Ritual

{And now, Lia and John will perform what is called the Crystals Ritual...}

[Celebrant directs John & Lia to proceed to the Crystals Table]

[Celebrant cues Musician to Start Ritual Music]

John and Lia, you have just sealed your relationship by your vows, and the giving and receiving of your wedding rings, and this covenant is a relationship pledge between two people who agree that they will commit themselves to one another throughout their lives. The most beautiful example of this partnership is the marriage relationship. You have committed here today to share the rest of your lives with each other.
Today, this relationship is symbolized through the pouring of these two individual containers of Crystals into one. One container representing you, John and all that you were, all that you are, and all that you will ever be, and the other representing you, Lia, and all that you were, and all that you are, and all that you will ever be. As these two containers of Crystals are poured into the third container, the individual containers of Crystals will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. John & Lia, please pour your individual containers of crystals into the third container.

[Lia and John pour sand into container]

John & Lia, just as these Crystals can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so will your marriage be.

[Celebrant directs Lia and John to proceed back to original positions]

[Celebrant cues Musician to End Ritual Music]

Pronouncement of Marriage

[Lia Takes Bouquet back from M of Honor]

{At this time we come to the Pronouncement of Marriage. The Pronouncement is my public, and legal, proclamation that Lia and John are married. It is the exact moment of Marriage...}

John and Lia, now that you have heard the words about love and marriage, now that you have shown us the example of your love and celebrated your union by reciting your vows, giving each other your beautiful rings, and performing the Crystals Ritual it is with great joy and happiness that I now pronounce you husband and wife.

Permission to Kiss

[Celebrant says nothing, Lia & John Kiss]

Good Wishes

These two lives are now joined in one unbroken circle. Wherever they go, may they always return to one another in their togetherness. May these two find in each other the love for which all men and women long. May they grow in understanding and in compassion. May the home that they establish be such a place of sanctuary that man will find there a friend. And may their two rings symbolize the spirit of undying love in the hearts of both of them.

Presentation of the New Couple

[Lia and John Turn and Face Their Guests]

Ladies and gentlemen, It is my pleasure to present to you...
John & Lia Last Name!


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You have committed here today
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with each other.

Today, this relationship is symbolized
through the pouring of these two individual containers of Crystals
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